You know what I’m talking about. You sit up late looking at all the amazing things people do on Pinterest, or in somewhere else in the Blogisphere. At first, you are just thinking of all the cool things you would like to do, but at some point, it happens. You start to feel inadequate. You look at what other people do, and begin to feel like you aren’t trying hard enough or that you aren’t creative enough, or skinny enough or whatever.
It seems like we are even more susceptible to this kind of comparison during the holiday season. Magazines are full of the “perfect holiday”, Pinterest abounds with ideas of what your home and holidays should look like, and every blog abounds with unattainable perfection. No matter how much we do, it never seems to take us to that land of perfection.
The trouble with this phenomenon is that we are only seeing part of the picture (when it comes to the “skinny enough” comparison, we are often literally only seeing part of the picture — they photoshopped the other half away. But that’s another topic altogether.) We see the part of people’s lives that they want us to see — the part that went well. We see the perfectly redecorated room, but we don’t see the bickering spouses or the crying children or the debt or the simple bone-weariness that might have been part of the process. We see the perfect cheesecake, but we don’t see the burnt pot roast. We see what worked, but we don’t see what didn’t work.
I recently saw a study which found that the more often people used facebook and other social media, the less happy they were. Why? They concluded that the reason people were less satisfied and more depressed had to do with comparing themselves with the perfection they saw on other people’s posts. As Theodore Roosevelt said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.”
So, in the spirit of showing you the reality of my home, here are some pictures:
Have a great day!